Your profile on your favorite lesbian dating website is your first impression. It’s what makes ladies decide if you’re the type of person they want to get in touch with. That’s why it’s so important to get it right the first time around. Make mistakes, and you could be wasting valuable time wading through contact requests from women you’d rather not meet. So how do you make sure that your online dating profile is the best it can be? What can you do to attract the ‘right kind’ of lesbians online? Here are five tips to getting that lesbian dating profile right!
Pick a unique screenname that gives a glimpse into who you are. While names like “JuicyGrrl69” or “HornyBoiAries” may look unique – you’d be surprised at how many ladies pick rather sexualized names when all they are looking for is someone to talk to. Be sure that your dating site screenname not only reflect someone about you, but doesn’t give the wrong impression. “DildoSlut” would be a great name for a bottom looking for a no strings attached relationship. “GardeningMom12” shows that sex isn’t the most important factor in picking a potential partner. It’s not that one is ‘bad’ and the other ‘good’ – they just need to reflect what you’re searching for. Also resist putting any part of your real name as your dating screen name, as this can be used to locate you when you’d rather not be.
Post a flattering photo. Your profile picture doesn’t necessarily need to be one of your face, but at the very least be sure it’s a recent image of yourself. While we all know that there are more things to a great partner than looks, seeing an image of your potential lover on a lesbian dating site then meeting someone who looks quite different can be a bit nerve wracking! But, if it is, be sure that you only use that image on that site. Using Google Images, you can backwards-search an image. This means that if you are using the same picture on your Facebook profile, with your real name, someone can search for your dating site image and come up with your Facebook page. Just be careful!
Know what you are looking for. Why have you joined a lesbian dating site? Are you searching for a new long term partner? Other lesbians just to hang out with? A no-strings-attached lesbian relationship? Also keep in mind the type of woman you’re looking for. Use basic terms to describe yourself that would be searchable for others looking for your type.
Lay out your “must have”s, your “it would be nice if”s and your “should not” list right from the start. Start as you mean to go. In the case of dating sites for lesbians, this means lay it all out with what type of person you’re looking for. If your possible lesbian love must be a butch, like reading, and is a vegetarian non-smoker, be sure to put this in your profile. While the amount of people contacting you overall may be reduced, you’ll have more of the type of person you DO want contacting you.
Be positive, but honest. Flatter yourself in an honest but meaningful way. If you are on the older site, use term like “mature” and “experienced”. “Curvy” and “BBW” are often terms searched out by those looking for plus sized ladies. Avoid the put downs – even if meant in a joking manner. We don’t mean just when it comes to describing yourself, either. Keep away from the sarcastic style remarks like “Losers need not apply” in your lesbian dating site profile.
We also suggest that once you’ve written your lesbian dating site profile, you hold off a day before posting it. Let it sit in your word document overnight, then come back to it the next morning for a few tweaks. This will help you pick up spelling and grammar errors more easily, as you won’t be reading what you “think” you wrote, but what you actually did right. Once you’re happy with that profile, get it uploaded and get ready for your first contacts to come through. Good luck!